Once you have found the man or woman of your dreams, you may find that you come from different religious backgrounds. Rather than letting this cause a rift in your relationship, embrace the differences as you learn to blend into each other’s lives. Once you become engaged, you have new etiquette to learn and follow as you try to do each religion justice. If you want a smooth and seamless wedding ceremony, there are a few things you can do during your engagement to achieve it.
Have a Long Engagement
Give yourself time to reconcile and discuss differences of opinion with a long engagement. Your engagement should be spent planning and scheduling your vendors for the wedding, but you should also discuss your views on raising children and marriage roles in each of your religions. Spend time learning the culture and traditions in the faith of your partner to strengthen your bond and find guidance to planning your interfaith wedding.
Help Your Parents
If you and your fiancé come from different religions, it is likely that your parents have opposite views as well. Parents may find it hard to accept your new spouse’s faith, but you have the ability to help ease them into the transition. Spend time with your parents and your future spouse’s parents, allowing them to adjust and ask questions as you blend your families together. If you already are planning a long engagement, you have plenty of time to nurture your new family bonds.
Find the Right Officiant
Sometimes, a couple is lucky enough to find an officiant that is comfortable with blending traditions that the couple wants. If you have friends and family of different faiths, ask for recommendations to help find a suitable officiant. Sometimes, your wedding schedule may not fit with the right officiant alone; some couples decide to have an officiant from each of their religions to make sure the faiths are represented equally. This is your wedding ceremony, so personalize the experience in a way that provides both of your faiths with respect.
The key to a smooth transition with two faiths is planning. With the right planning, you can make both parties comfortable with the combining of families, while avoiding offending anyone during the ceremony. Try to find nondenominational or multifaith marriage invitations as a way to demonstrate to guests that your wedding will not be their traditional Christian, Catholic, or Muslim wedding. When the day comes, enjoy the fruits of your labor as you join your lives together at the altar.